Stepping out.

Sometimes life is such a bitch that you have to step back and let her do what she wants.

There have been times over the last few months where instead of fighting her, I’ve just given up and let her win.

The time has come that I need to take a step back from everything and try and sort myself out. I am in definite need of my holiday in October.

All my social media and blogs will be left to do own thing, which is probably not much at all, until I figure out a few things. Whether I come back yet remains to be seen.

keep writing all your wonderful posts,


It’s my Birthday!

birthday candles
Yep, that’s right.  Today, Saturday, is the celebration of my entry into this world some 41 years ago. Right about now I’m feeling every second of it after starting a new exercise regime and finding muscles I’d forgotten existed.

Most of us celebrate birthdays with parties, pampering, crazy life-and-death activities, over indulgence of some kind, spending it with loved ones.

What should I do? What am I going to do?
Well the man is back at work and knowing this would be the case we had a little celebration while he was home – combining it with an early anniversary present.  Staying at the hotel we spent our wedding night, and simply chilling with quality us time – no kids anywhere.
It’s going to be pretty low key until later this afternoon. Some baking, go for my daily run and then get ready for a night with the girls.
I have a group of the most amazing friends here, no matter the combination of who’s there we always have a great time. And it usually means there is an over abundance of alcohol partaken. We need no excuse to get together – birthdays, not-saying-goodbye’s, weddings, just because really.


So celebrate with me in whatever way you please, have a great weekend
Jen :-)

Sunday Brunch

After a couple of busy days with family and friends, hubby and I took a walk this morning which culminated in this delicious 11am feast with coffee.


Have a good day, see you next week.
Jen :-)

a new direction maybe…

I’m having a bloggy midlife crisis, or my blog is having a crisis… or I don’t know what, really.
I tend to be passive agressive at times. I shy away from confrontation, it takes a lot to get me cranky, really cranky, and while I am online I try and be less controversial and more happy and carefree.
My problem?  There have been things happening online, and around the country that I really want to comment on, but I tend to not want to offend anyone, not stick my neck out, not get any attention outside of my blog, so I stay quiet, and just plod along on doing what I do.
I never really wanted to write on controversial or the ‘hot’ topics as there is already so much of that out there.
I’m not interested in any sort of attention, because most of my arguments are simply what I feel, how I see things, not anything based on facts. So you could quite easily rip my opinion to shreds, and that’s where my problem lies. I don’t like the idea of people saying what I think is shit, purely because I have no fact to back it up with. That’s personal.
Is that a problem? Sometimes I think so.
I’m thinking of changing my blog, adding more of this, but still keeping the other lightweight stuff.

Part of this ranting lies with the whole feminist and anti-feminist issues. At the very core of it, the base meaning of the word, yes I am a feminist.  You will be hard pressed to find me vocalising it, as I feel the majority of them are doing their cause a great disservice by being so uptight about every. little. thing. There’s got to be a limit to how far you go.
And as the mother of boys, I am erring towards being a manist (is that even a word?).  Boys are young men are getting such a bad rap of it that they will soon be as frightened as what girls appear to be.  they can’t seem to be doing anything right.  If I had a daughter would I be any different, I don’t know.. but does it matter really.

So what I want to know is, would you mind if I got on my soap box every now and then and went off. I’m only asking because it is, will be, quite different to what I have been and usually do here.

It’s all about being Thankful.

It’s been so damned busy around here and yet I have achieved absolutely nothing. Well, that may not be strictly true, but it feels that way.

I know of several people who do a gratitude list here on WordPress, and while I’ve tried, I just can’t get it together to do one on a regular basis.
And then there’s the facebook thing going round, 3 things for 5 days and tagging your friends.
Now I am certainly not ungrateful for what I have but was dreading the day someone might actually drag me into posting.
I get the whole reasoning behind it, and I will do it, but my way.

So here are some things I am thankful for.

  1. I am healthy, fit and happy.
  2. I have food to eat and a roof over my head.
  3. My kids still talk to me – teenagers and all.
  4. My family – wherever they may be – are all safe and happy.
  5. I lead a busy life – no time to worry about being bored.
  6. I have a job I love – while only working on a casual basis, I am happy it is there for me.
  7. I have a wonderful group of friends – it’s only taken me 30+ years to get there.
  8. I live in the best part of the world – we have nothing in the way of conflict.
  9. I live in great country that is far and wide, and absolutely amazing – every last bit of it (and I’ve seen a bit).
  10. I am able to persue any opportunities that come my way, without fear of retribution or otherwise.
  11. I feel safe.
  12. I am loved.
  13. I enjoy having friends all  over the world – it is a wonderful thing to be able connect on a personal level (see things through others’ eyes, learn new stuff, see awesome pictures)  and above all be able to visit them!
  14. I have trustworthy kids – the older two both have our credit card details for their Xbox live stuff, and they ask/let us know if they have to buy anything, which is not very often, but still.

As and extra:
I’m also happy to live in such a lovely area where even complete strangers feel comfortable paying you a compliment. And by complete stranger I mean a person I have seen in passing, on occasion, walking their dog,  I do not know who he is, or where he’s from.  This morning, as I’m jogging past he calls out and says “I’m impressed, you’re doing so well,it’s great to see” and then on my way back meeting him further down the road he says it again “good job, keep up the hard work”

Things like that certainly make you feel so much better, and it’s a little easier to push through the pain (at least til they can’t see you anymore).

Have a great week, and why not pay someone a compliment, it’ll make them smile and you can feel good too.