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Friday Philosophies.

Secrets for relationship happiness…

– Say thank you for things done, no matter how small.
– Appreciate what your partner does, even if it’s not the way you would do it.
– Let them know how you feel in whichever way makes them happy.
– Know their faults, but don’t bitch about them.
– Communicate and compromise.

Have a great weekend
Jen 🙂

Tattoos. Not the Military type.

Hands up who’s got a tattoo…

Hands up who wants a tattoo…

Hands up who has never ever given it a thought…

And hands up, who really doesn’t care ether way…

Despite so many people having them these days (it’s almost become an on trend thing to get one) there are still a large group of people who are opposed to them. Who pigeon hole those with them as unreliable, untrustworthy, not good sons of bitches. And then there’s the women with them, skanky, tarts, dykes, bikie chicks… The lists go on. But the only people it says something about are those that make the comments. Are they that insecure that they have to make fun of people, or drag them down to make themselves feel better? Comment on something that makes no difference to how they live their lives, and is not hurting them in any way.

I grew up reasonably sheltered. I cannot remember anyone who visited us, or who we visited that had tattoos and yet from when I was 15 I wanted one. I can’t for the life of me figure out why, but I just have.

One of my sister’s comments when I told her I got my first one was “why would you do that?” I then reminded her that she had one…”But I was young and stupid” Fair point, she was 20 and I was 30 when I got mine. (I’m glad I waited too). But that reaction says maybe she regretted it. I’m sure I’ve asked her, but can’t remember what she said. It was a time in her life, and that tatt symolises it.  Does she regret what she did back then. I hope not.  I don’t always agree with wanting to remove them, it is a part of you, what makes you you. To remove it is to remove a part of yourself.  There are some cases I’ve seen and read about where I can agree with that. If you can’t change it, remove it.

I don’t judge anyone on their tattoos unless they give me reason to. In my family, on both my husband’s and my side, all bar one of the women (5/6) have a tatt or two while none of the men do. Interesting. What does that say about us girls. Wanting to be tough, prove something, like to decorate our bodies, or what. Are we just show offs? I can’t answer for them, but .. well, actually I can’t even answer for me. Just something I had to do. For me, not anyone else.

I have one on my shoulder (a cherub), Chinese words on my spine and the so called tramp stamp. God how I hate that term. And I am square-er than a cube, so it really doesn’t apply to me.
Sure I know how it came about. But isn’t continuing calling it that perpetuating the whole reaction around it. Making it worse. Drives me nuts when it is said, but if I react, then it makes it worse. And I dislike it when it’s only said to get a reaction. Childish!
My friends don’t have an issue with it, it is what it is. A part of who I am. It’s all about my character, my relationship and what we are.

I’m not ashamed of them. I love them. They are as much a part of me as anything. And I want another. (I want I want..) I would really like to get another. Something different. A picture, something that symbolises another part of me. The crazy chick that gets let out occasionally. (I’ve been letting her out for a bit lately, and she’s enjoying it rather too much I think).

I’ve had and have friends with tattoos and you know what… I really don’t care. In some cases it surprises me that they have one, (cause I don’t expect it) It doesn’t change who they are. I certainly wouldn’t dislike someone because of it. And if my kids want one when they’re older, well I can’t really say no now can I?

So, what’s your thoughts on tattoos? yes, no, who cares, no idea..??
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